Help dating recovering addict
He tells me that if he leaps too fast he might relapse. (I read books and attend meeting in an attempt to understand what support he needs, but I never get much information on relationships.) Hi Kris, Welcome! You might want to check out the Friends and Family Forum on this board. I don't know what he is addicted to, but I can tell you this as a drunk who has learned a thing or two in a short time.At the same time he really makes no effort to pursue a relationship with me, but if I dont call or make an effort to see him, he is hurt. We never know when something is going to rock your world and leave you defenseless against the evils of addiction.If he is putting his recovery first and keeps it first your relationship if it was meant to be will move forward.His recovery is nothing to be jealous of, it is something to be thankful for.
maybe he's just afraid he'll lose you if he moves too far, too fast.
You also didn't mention if he was in some sort of recovery program or what he is doing to maintain staying clean.
These are important things you need to consider before getting involved with this man - especially with children involved.
I would also suggest you give Al Anon meetings a try. - Alex Haley I have just meet an awesome man..has been upfront and honest with me and tells me that he has been sober(from cocaine,crack,and heroine) for 2years and 8 mnths..he just got out of prison 2 months ago!
They will likely be able to answer some of your questions and give you support. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. I know this is alot to take in but my heart is telling me to give him a chance.