Good physical boundaries in dating
More than half of enjoying the beach, though, is being able to stand big.Something happens deep inside of us when we walk up, let the water splash over our feet, and stare out over endless waves, extending far beyond our imagination can run.Your desires are about to drag you off and trap you.From what I can tell, not only are you nurturing purity, rather, you are feeding lust. You need more than the goal of purity; you need a plan for it.As we walk up to the edge of marriage, we draw close to something so much bigger than ourselves. It’s a vibrant picture of the love God has shown us in sending his Son for us, a love wider and deeper than the Pacific Ocean.God designed love in marriage, like gallons and gallons of ocean, to show us how unsearchable love is for us. And because love within a covenant is so large, so intense, so captivating, he established a boundary, a shoreline.
We have weather like theirs here, too, blue skies, burning sun, light breeze — at least for two or three weeks every year.You need the brakes put on in a big way, which might even mean putting this relationship on pause for a season while you each nurture purity of heart through discipleship and prayer.As for discussing it with one another, I would simply ask an older married adult or couple — a leader in your church or a mature Christian — to be with you and lead the conversation for you as you talk about where you go from here.It’s estimated that the Pacific Ocean holds 187 deep. The Lord says to Job, “Who shut in the sea with doors when it burst out from the womb, when I made clouds its garment and thick darkness its swaddling band, and prescribed limits for it and set bars and doors, and said, ‘Thus far shall you come, and no farther, and here shall your proud waves be stayed’? And then he drew a line in the sand and told the waves they could go no farther. To show us that the waves are his, to tell us that he is sovereign, creative, and wise — and that he can be trusted.And we can safely play there in its wake at Newport Beach, wading carelessly into seemingly infinite power and mystery. “He established the fountains of the deep, when he assigned to the sea its limit, so that the waters might not transgress his command, when he marked out the foundations of the earth” (Proverbs –29). God does the same kind of work in marriage and dating.