Dating in your late forties
I absolutely guarantee you that no matter what you look like, there is a man out there right now that thinks you are hot (even if you are built like a buffalo or a rhinoceros ...which I, personally, would find disgusting - just FYI).I am working on finishing up repainting the downstairs half bath and tiling it and I am working on refinishing an old wrought iron bed frame that I got for free because someone was just going to toss it and I am refinishing our patio furniture.
And yes, physical attributes are the center of it all.
The "nice teeth" comment came from me - no one wants a girlfriend with jacked up teeth - no way! I am saddened by the notion that midlife men don't care at all about the intelligence and logic of a woman but only her appearance and financial assets and I'm not saying this as an ugly feminist either.
I mean apparently it's fine with men if if a woman erroneously believes that it's ok to tax the middle class to death to pay for Obama's form of socialized medicine or you forward every dumb internet forward that comes your way as long as you look hot doing it.
I think women are more interested in men's personality than men are with women, although I've been contradicted by female friends who say that women are just as interested in physical attributes of men. And yes, like he said, although certain features (blondes) are more popular to more people, beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. I don't think intelligence is attractive for either gender, and often is less attractive, or corresponds to less attractive aspects of personality.
One big thing for me (and many, many men that I know): weight matters. That said, stupidity, ignorance and poor social skills are all automatic disqualifications for attractiveness. What IS attractive is a winning personality and I do think a certain amount of intelligence contributes to wit and quickness, which are attractive in any gender.