Dating a guy with kids ex
I have a friend -- let’s call her Jane -- who only dates older men.
The span of time between their respective ages never seems to really matter, as long as they are older.
Usually, her limit tips at the 10-year mark, but sometimes, she will make a concession for 15 or 20.
If his hair is aptly salt and peppered, she will even dip down to a solid five years older.
This guy will be in constant contact when his kids are not around, but once they arrive for their dad time, he will go ghost. If she is still remotely enamored with him, this will not sit well with her — especially if he introduces you to their kids.
Be aware that if you become a solid part of his life, you might have to deal with the natural jealousy of the one who “came before you.”The Good: You will always be younger, hotter and sexier than the mother of his child, and he will take every opportunity he has to tell you how amazing you are. Because he came out of a situation where he got the prize (his kids) without the package (their original family unit), he will look at you as if you are heaven sent.
One thing you need to understand is this: His kids come first.
If that fact doesn’t detour you, be ready to receive some of the benefits that will inevitably come when he does get around to calling you. The man with kids doesn’t get a lot of one-on-one adult time, especially if he is the primary parent.
If you are a lady who loves lots of time with your man, the man with kids may NOT be the best option for you.You are his angel because the two of you have not endured the obstacles that broke them apart.He will take every opportunity to bask in the glow of your budding relationship, and may often make a comparison in your favor. Just make sure you are never the one doing the comparing. If he is divorced and just now starting to date, he may not remember how important words of affirmation are. Competition: You will always be hers (even if she has moved on).When he does get it, however, he will appreciate it. Do not expect the time you two spend together to be consistent.Make it fun and exciting for him, and he will keep coming back for more. If an everyday encounter is what you seek, then keep it moving, sister. Even if they are no longer an item, the fact that a new woman is taking the time and attention of her former lover will affect the "baby mama" on some level.